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7 Simple Hacks To Resolve Family Disputes Over The Holidays (Like A Divorce Lawyer)

The holiday season is supposed to be a time of togetherness and joy. However, since family members may not always get along, holiday family gatherings can bring out conflict, stress and tension.  If you are contemplating attending a potentially difficult holiday gathering, read on. (A Divorce Lawyer) Consider the following tips to make the holiday […]

7 Simple Hacks To Resolve Family Disputes Over The Holidays (Like A Divorce Lawyer)

7 Simple Hacks To Resolve Family Disputes Over The Holidays (Like A Divorce Lawyer)

By Aylward Game - Nov 28, 2016 Family Law

The holiday season is supposed to be a time of togetherness and joy. However, since family members may not always get along, holiday family gatherings can bring out conflict, stress and tension.  If you are contemplating attending a potentially difficult holiday gathering, read on. (A Divorce Lawyer)

Consider the following tips to make the holiday a peaceful one and solve the cases like a divorce lawyer.

  1. Instead of worrying about what might happen, try to predict problems which may arise between different members of the family. If there are people who don’t get along, think of ways to avoid the conflict. If there are strong divisions you probably won’t be able to solve them but you may be able to agree a compromise. If there are subjects on which people disagree and argue, speak to them before the day. Being prepared for problems which may arise is a great way to take control of the situation.
  2. Tensions often run high during holidays because one person is tasked with too much to do. They may exhaust themselves to the point where arguments are inevitable, or may resent that others aren’t contributing. If you see this happening, offer to help and get more involved.
  3. There are different conflict stages, ranging from mild disagreements to heated arguments. If the conflict at hand is at its mildest level, you will want to keep an open mind and actively engage the other party while paying attention to what they are saying.  At moderate and severe levels, you may want to use arbitrators to save you from this unhealthy situation.
  4. Instead of attacking and judging the other person, gently invite them to see things from your point of view while exploring the basis of their own belief.
  5. There is nothing inappropriate about agreeing to disagree. Taking a central position will allow you to enjoy the non-adversarial aspects of your relationship.
  6. Rather than sweating the small stuff, try and relax while reminding yourself that you only need to put with your crazy relative for one day.
  7. Express your willingness to forgive and ask for forgiveness. Know when you are being a catalyst and feeding the flames of conflict and don’t hesitate to reach out and say sorry.
  8. From the foregoing, it’s important to learn how to cope with the resulting conflict and stress of family gatherings in order to successfully navigate the family holiday season.

Advertisements and glossy magazines give the impression that holidays with the family is perfect. The reality is that there are often tensions and conflicts within families; no family is perfect, and there are times when tensions and disagreements can lead to arguments. Holidays are a time when families get together to celebrate, and there is an inevitable risk of friction.

Media images of perfect families enjoying a wonderful holiday can add to the pressure, and it’s important to accept that most families fall out from time to time. And always remember – Drink responsibly.

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